Complaint Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris

The book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris presents several contradictions which will be exposed here which inevitably reveal contradictions in the author as well.

Firstly the book gives the impression that every reader who is reading this book is somehow easily able to meet and "date" or connect with someone. This is not the case with everyone especially those who might have been single for quite a period of time because it has not been easy at all for them to meet or even "date" someone.

Secondly there is a rather extreme view of kissing where the impression is given that one should not kiss someone while dating or courting. For Joshua Harris this is act of intimacy. Unfortunately, he is imbalanced in his proposition because it is not the act that makes it wrong but the holiness or purity level that is found in the act itself that can make it wrong or right which the scripture is clear on. The Bible talks about holy kissing (2 Corinthians 13: 12, Romans 16: 16). Can two who are in a relationship as Christians especially not kiss in a holy way? The answer is they can according the Bible. This flies in the face of what Joshua Harris expounds. Holiness is the demonstration of being united with God. Certainly if kissing is done in a way that represents to the world that two people who are united to each other in a unmarried relationship are also united to God then why should the act be seen as wrong anyway? As long as the demonstration of the act is done with holiness in the minds of the two individuals in that both parties do not wish for it to go further than that then nothing can be seen as wrong with the act itself in the courtship stage of a couple's relationship.

Thirdly Joshua Harris assumes that after one has kissed someone that the hurt can be deeper if they break up with you. This is clearly false. There are those who have not even kissed someone and were indeed involved in a breakup afterwards and the hurt was just as deep as anyone else's hurt. The author of this report is witness to this since this author has indeed had this happen to him. Again the contradiction of Joshua Harris is exposed.

Fourthly the book assumes that if one does not kiss when one is courting then when one eventually gets married the marriage will last.  Not necessarily the case and total rubbish.

Finally the book and author fail to help someone solve their singleness. It only teaches a single person to cope with being single rather than teaching how someone can go about finding someone who is godly especially and not be single any more. This is an extremely big failure of this book and one this book most certainly must be highlighted for.

These are the contradictions that are found in this book which reveal a gross imbalance within its covers as well as revealing a gross imbalance within the mind of Joshua Harris as a whole