Lee County Adult protective services DHR refuses to help my elderly mother who is being abused and financially exploited by my brother she tells me he screams at her for spending her own money and makes her live a sheltered live my brother then lies about me and the dhr somehow believes him and they try to blame me they claim to help the elderly against financial abuse and verbal abuse opelika Alabama
The lee county DHR claims to protect the elderly from abuse and financial exploitation. My mother always tells me in secret he does this to her, he screams and verbally abuses her and make her live a shelter live. He doesn't want the rest of the family me or my other two brothers or their familes to come around. It causes such chaos they never come back to visit their mother, because he want let them.
But then my mother tells me all this stuff and then she sides with him when he starts fight. He also keeps moving in women he meets on the internet and makes my mother support them. I have evidence that he has sent over $7,000 to try and find a woman in africa but it was really a man he was sending it to. He lost his home in 2007 after he got a divorced. But the problem is he quit his truck driving job to live off our parents.
He also abused my dad while on his death bed. I complained to the DHE several times they go to her house but my brother and mother know how to trick and fool people and convince them that me and my other two brothers are liars and are the trouble makers. This is how my brother is still able to get away with his abuse by turning things around on me.
He has spent all mothers money and the DHR refuses to look in her bank account, he also has any time she makes a transaction it goes directly to his cell phone as a text message. I been around my mother I know how she is and how my brother is . The DHR people are just around for a few minutes not to see how bad a abuser my brother really is and a jerk.
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The dhr has refused to listen to me and my brother made my mother pay $11,000 to pay of his truck besides pay her bills she was sued even though she had him in charge of her money he didn't pay
#6Author of original report
Wed, January 18, 2017
My mother was in charge of her bank account from 2011-2016. My mother got some money from selling my fathers handicapped van but he made her pay off his truck which the pay off balance was $11,000. He also caused her to be sued because of this and now my mom has a LEIN on her home. But the jerks at the DHR rather get me in trouble because I'm a female.
Another stupid thing my brother did in 2013 he traded his nice new paid for truck, after he harassed our mother to pay of his 2008 f-150. He traded it for a 2003 harley Davidson motor cycle with over 500,000 mies. The he does more stupid things like paying $1000 for a 1984 chevy silverrado. He spent $500 to put new parts on his motor cycle and with a $400 seat. And he has spent several hundred dollars on this POS truck. And yet he takes our mothers car and leaves her home by her self.
I am know in charge and helping my mother. Now the DHR is trying to have my mother removed from her home because of a complaint against me. They sure wasn't so concerned when I made the complaint about my brother. But when my brother made a false complaint against me. They threaten my mother that they are going to take her away from her home, BECAUSE OF ME, NOT MY BOTHER. SEXIST RATS.
The dhr is being sexist toward me because I am a single female and my brother who is bigger than me is unjustly accusing me of abusing my mother when he is the one and the dhr is taking is side
#6Author of original report
Wed, January 18, 2017
I have made complaints against my brother for alienation of my mother by not allowing me or my other two brothers come see her. My father died in 2011 and he has been on a high horse acting all cocky. But these B****** at the DHR has turned everything around on me. Its also a form of sexism to blame me for taking advantage of my mother and stealing her money. My brother has been the only one who had a Debit Card linked to her checking account. My mother has provided me with her bank statements which showed everything he has purchsed since my father died from 2011-2016.
My mother know has changed her will and has giving. My brother is the one who has the debit card not me. And if my mother chose to buy me and my son something, it was none of his business. He would go everyday and buy $15.00 of cigarettes. And he made a big deal because my mom bought my son a $4.00 meal from Mcdonald's. I'm so glad that my brother don't have any kids of his own.
My brother is the abuser here and not me. My mother has also had it with them coming in her house and threatening to put her in a shelter because of me. But they rather protext my brother and side with him, because my mother now has put me in charge. My brother's girlfriend is trying to STEAL MY MOTHERS HOUSE AND BELONGINGS.
And the DHR is allowing my brothers girlfriend to do it by putting the blame on me that I'm the one abusing my mother and stealing her money.
ITS PURE SEXISM YOU KNOW THE MALE AND FEMALE THING.
The dhr tries to confuse me by arguing with me my mother don't have financial issues he does he can't even manage his own checking account
#6Author of original report
Sat, September 24, 2016
My brother can't even manage his own money. And I believe he has used my parents money to send to africa to try to find a woman. And all the time it was an african man making a fool out of my brother. All I can say is he deserve to be cheated if he though he was going to find a HOTT WOMAN from africa. But the problem is he is doing all this crap under our parents roof.
Me and my other two brothers were never allowed to do this, He is a 54 year old man and has always live with mommy and daddy. . My brother keeps making these stupid financial decisions and making my mothers life hell. I just don't know what to do anymore. He is into devil worship because as soon he walks into the house their is utter chaos and mother always defends him after her telling me how he abuses her.
We get along find when he isn't around. My mother is all by herself during the week. She needs her medicine or she will die. She want let me take her to the doctor anymore or help her. Becase my mother is real stubborn, even when my brother is abusing her she will take it to get back at me. Even though I am good to her let her make decisions and let her have control over her money.
I don't it set it to my cell phone or track her every purchase like my brother does. I can't deal with the stress anymore so what ever happens to my mother will just happen. I am done if she dies then what will my brother do when her money stops coming. Because she receives social security and part of my fathers military pay and social security benefits.
Because he wouldn't be able to live in that house he can't afford the house payment water or light bill. And plus her house is a surviver house it was giving to my mother when my father died in 2011. So he can't touch it or sell it to get the money.
Robert
Irvine,California,
USA
If you are being truthful...
#6Consumer Comment
Sat, September 24, 2016
If you are being 100% truthful, you better come up with a better story.
As you first say he quit his job as a trucker to "live" off your parents. Yet then you say he is gone during the week and that your mom can't live alone because she may fall. You don't get it both ways...either she can live by herself or can't and your brother either has a job or he doesn't.
You say you have evidence that he sent over $7000 to someone in Africa. Okay was that your mom's money? Just how did you get this evidence?
You say she lives a sheltered life, but apparently has access to her accounts where she is still able to make transactions. Doesn't sound like he is being too opressive, but if she has financial issues it is responsible of him to get a text to make sure she is not spending it badly.
If this is all you got, it is no wonder why DHRisn't paying much attention to you.
If your State's recording laws allow it why don't you secretly record her saying all of these things?
If something happens to my mother because my brother is gone during the week driving a truck and she falls the dhr better not blame me because I will sue I have done everything in my power to help her
#6Author of original report
Thu, September 22, 2016
My mother is home by herself though out the week. I have tried to help her but she sides with her abuser my brother. She don't want my help last week she feel and a neighbor had to come help me also. My mother is so stubborn, she rather have her abuser son. My mother is known. I have just to sit by and let what ever happens happens. I've tried to help my mother and everytime I tried to help her she betrays me and side with my trouble making mother.
So I don't give a crap what happens to her. THE DHR BETTER NOT COME AFTER ME WHEN THEY HAVE KNOWN WHO THE REAL TROUBLE MAKER IS. I WILL SUE THEM. BECAUSE THEY COULD HAD DONE SOMETHING. BUT THEY ARE CRIMINALS TO IF THEY WANT TO TRY AND COME AFTER ME BASED ON MY MOTHER AND BROTHERS LIES.