Complaint Review: RICHARD JEFFERSON JR

I was absolutely amazed when the father did answer his cell phone last time I tried to contact him. (They never answer the phone when our number is showing up on the ID..how do they know it's not the girls' wanting to talk to their father?)He first told me he was "in between jobs" right now, then later in the conversation said he "gets paid every two weeks". However, taxes are NOT being taken out like his family and I previously thought would happen. His wife refuses to work, and everything is in her name. Doesn't the system find it kind of odd how they're "surviving"? They are not on any public assistance either. Richard had also recently tried to buy a second car to give to his wife, but thanks to his failure to pay child support, his credit is SHOT. He told me that he'll pay me "what he can". Well, perhaps he should stop his VERY expensive habits. I wish he could envision taking the money directly out of our daughters' hands each time he does his "extra curricular" activities. I only think he answered the phone b/c he didn't know it was me for some reason. When I've tried to call a week ago, the wuss actually waited for the phone to stop ringing, and called his mommy to have HER TELL ME he was going to send a payment out.(They don't use their voicemail anymore,so I can't even let him know of upcoming events at the kids' school, or if they're in the hospital,etc I now leave any news of school functions up to his family to tell him.) He only sent money b/c I gave warning that a license suspension for him was going up for review. He was suddenly able to come up with money to send in then. Funny how that works, isn't it?

Another big reason I went through the DOR is because I wanted his mother to not be a part of this. I wanted her to be able to enjoy her grandchildren, and for her and I to focus on our relationship together. I care for this woman very, very much. I just can only imagine how hard it must be to know that your son is a total loser. He's burned so many bridges behind him, and yet wonders why people won't help him out anymore.(His mother told me that Richard's father never paid child support as well, so maybe he thinks what he's doing is ok.) Apparently, a few nights ago, someone had read my original report, and called Richard at his home telling him to "pay your f'n child support a-hole", something along those lines from what his sister told me. I guess the person said they had gotten the number from the internet. Well, of course, Richard calls up his mommy telling her what happened,instead of calling me to handle it. And she calls his sister,etc (Like I'm going to call and say something like that when I've been trying to come up with agreements,etc to help him avoid trouble and encouraging him to see his girls)
Well,I told his sister he should get an unlisted number. (THEY ARE NOT ABLE TO BE REACHED AT THE NUMBER GIVEN WITH THE FIRST POST, SO DON'T TRY TO REACH THEM AT THAT ONE ANYMORE. I UNDERSTAND POSTS CAN'T BE DELETED, BUT THAT NUMBER SHOULD NOT BE UP THERE ANYMORE. I FEEL BAD FOR THE NEXT PERSON THAT GETS IT AND RECEIVES CALLS FROM SOMEONE THINKING THEY'RE CALLING TO TELL RICHARD WHAT A LOW LIFE PIECE OF CRAP HE IS.) As naive as this sounds, and with it being the middle of the night, and stressed with my first post, I thought that his phone number would have only been given to lawyers or organizations that would want to contact him in order to help my situation. I did not think it would be posted "right there" for any and all to see.(I'm afraid they could take legal action if any more calls were made while they had that number, and I do not have the strength to go through something like that right now. (I will not make the new number available. However, like I said, it's so easy to get any kind of info on the net nowadays, don't know what diff it would make. I'd still get blamed for it though.) His wife is a vicious liar and would only make my children's and I's lives hell. I actually genuinely liked her a lot before they got married.I thought she was a sweet girl.(I was engaged to a wonderful man, so never played the bitter ex. My fiance however, died in 2001, so I do not have his income to help me out.) I really did like her,even told Richard he found himself a good one. Get this, Richard is known to have said after they got married, "I don't know what happened, I married her and she turned into a monster" LMAO Once they started having their own kids, HER kids are all that mattered, and mine were nothing anymore.She was the ideal wicked stepmother from the movies to my girls with the way she treated them and spoke about them. We do have to keep in mind that there are little kids in his household, who do answer the phone sometimes. They do not need some nutjob saying anything bad to them about their daddy,etc. (By the way, his wife wants him to have NOTHING to do with our children. They get into a fight every time he tries to see them. She hasn't seen my little one in I don't know how long, but was ranking on her so bad a couple weeks ago to Richard..hope she feels good about tearing apart an 8 y.o(will be 8 this month)She has even made my youngest look/sound like a "bad girl" to her daughter. She's instilling her poison into her own children. My youngest loved her little half sister so much. Now, they'll never have a childhood growing up together.

Well, all this is leading to me bringing Richard to court for contempt.(Which the DOR had recommended to me when I told them they won't be able to find him w/his SS# since he's not having taxes taken out) I informed him during that miraculous contact I had with him, that since arrearage plans had already been made when we were in court last, that he will most likely be asked to pay the whole entire amount due, or go to jail. I told him I don't want to do this. I really don't. He needs to learn a lesson though. I fear that this is going to put such a rift between his mother and me. She's going to hate me.His sister feels it might teach him a lesson, that it might be just what he needs to grow up.I just hope his mom realizes I'm doing this for her grandchildren. She despises Richard's wife as it is, and thinks he has it so hard right now. I don't know if she'll ever be able to forgive me or truly understand why I have to do what I have to do. My kids have one childhood. I still have not and basically refuse to go for foodstamps,etc. Knowing that he's the reason that would have pushed me that far infuriates me.

On a positive note for all this, I am so thankful for the help and loving support that his sister and mother have given. They're the ones that see the girls every weekend. I consider his mom my second mom, and his sister, a very dear friend who I'll always be indebted to.

So, hopefully, a place of employement will finally be reported to the DOR, or he'll just stand up and be a man and do the right thing. Good luck to all you other single mothers and fathers going through the same battles with the noncustodial parents. Wishing you much strength,

I feel uncomfortable listing the father's telephone number, although it is available through information, and is not private. Were it a private number, I would not have offered the info.