Complaint Review: Richard Johnson - Yvette Johnson

I know this report is pretty old, but it still comes up in the first page of googling affairs. I just want to say that whoever this woman is that had an affair with a married man, please don't justify your long term affair with him by thinking that you are above the wife who you participated in deceiving for years. You have no idea what their lives were like, other than what he told you, and you already know that he's a liar, otherwise, he wouldn't have been able to succeed in leaving the house to get over to you. This is the mistake so many other women make when they actually think the man they're sleeping with is going to leave a marriage for them. Not many men leave their wives, and especially for someone that has already shown that they have no respect for commitment, nor the integrity you would want in a real woman.

Hopefully, everyone has moved on and the original poster has realized that walking into a marriage with the intent to destroy is lowdown and dirty and will not pursue another married man in her life.

@Chris.

Your post seems to show many Selfish reasons for starting relationships and a weak use of ethics in your life. I don't imagine you *do* understand the damage you have caused to relationships with your actions.

The problem with our country is, we act as though we are ALL victims. Not everyone is a victim. this is a country of victims. This includes the fact that we are always blame shifters. "She made me do it!", "It's her fault!, His fault!, their fault!' but never their own fault.

Now, that being said, in this case the wife IS at fault because she didn't obviously take the time to see that her man wasn't right for her. but let her play the victim. I've cheated before, not proud of it because I finally, after the years realized the trail of hurt souls I've left behind. Also, looking back I became "bored?" it really is the thrill of the hunt so to speak in regards to cheating. But i also look back and saw that my relationship was over or so far downhill, it didn't matter to me anyway. If you're NOT married, you're NOT obligated in anyway to do anything.

but in closing, this affair thread, this Richard Johnson guy was looking for something he wasn't getting at home. Also a bit of advice for the ladies, coming from a man to enlighten them to how men think, if a guy is married and comes home to an predominately bitchy wife, he will eventually look elsewhere for comfort and peace of mind. NO MAN wants to deal with insecure bitchy wives. just tell us about your day, but don't b***h.

Sarone,

I can't be anymore plain or clear, Richard used you as a SPERM BANK and than it sounds as if he dumped you, because you are using too much energy posting these critcal remarks about his wife. So what if they are still together, the better WOMAN WON! Get over it and find yourself someone else to slander.

Sarone:

You seem very hurt and angry. Is it because you sleep around with other women's husbands and can't claim one of your own.
Sure, it sounds like Yvette and Richard have serious issues however I see you as somewhat of a catalyst to their problems.
Why would you want to get involved with a mess like that? Find yourself a man who is unattatched if you don't want all this hurt in your life. Your letter is very telling as to your angry feelings.
Don't forget.... If he cheated on her he'll cheat on you.
It seems you and Richard might be suited for each other. Two adulterers!

Sincerely,

TO THE WOMAN HAVEING THE AFFAIR, YOU GOT WHAT YOU DESERVED.

IF YOU ARE INTO HAVEING AFFAIRS WITH MARRIED MEN THEN YOU BETTER GET USED TO BEING USED CAUSE THAT IS ALL YOUR GOOD FOR.

ANY MAN THAT HAS BEEN IN AN AFFAIR WITH YOU ALREADY KNOWS YOU CANT BE TRUSTED, SO WHY WOULD HE WANT TO KEEP YOU?

YOU SOUND PRETTY BITTER, WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO BE BITTER ABOUT? I AM SURE YOU KNOW MEN TALK AS MUCH (OR MORE) THAN WOMEN AND I AM SURE YOUR TAINTED,USED UP, WASHED UP, AND QUITE DESPERATE IF YOU HAVE TO PERSUE MARRIED MEN.

NOT ONLY THAT BUT HOW COULD YOU EVER MARRY AND TRUST YOUR MAN? YOU WONT EVER BE HAPPY BECAUSE OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ARE.

YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO TRUST BECAUSE YOU YOURSELF ARENT TRUSTWORTHY.

I CERTAINLY HOPE YOU DIDNT GIVE HIM ANY DISEASE'S THAT HE MAY HAVE TAKEN HOME TO HIS (FAITHFUL) WIFE?

YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF, AND I AM SURE HE IS VERY ASHAMED FOR EVER BEING ENVOLVED WITH THE LIKES OF YOU.

I HOPE HE AND HIS WIFE LIVE A LONG HAPPY LIFE (TOGETHER)

Keisha,
The situation that occured almost three years ago was a hurtful one to all involved. It happened. It's over. Instead of waisting energy posting slanderous reports, researching our whereabouts,sending cards and calling you'd be better off using the energy to get over what happened and moving on with your life. We have.
Take care and God Bless.

Why in the hell would you want to be with a man who has proven himself to be untrustworthy and unable to live up to his promise (ie, the marriage vows)? Just for the sake or argument, let's say he left her for you. How could you possibly trust him?

You are the one who sounds bitter, not the wife. You should really learn to love yourself enough to seek a man who is truthful and faithful. All you "win" when stealing a married man is another woman's problems and heartaches, which very soon will become your own.

Sarone,
It is often that a person in a bad relationship will find a person prior to separating and divorcing. I am not making a judgement on that and it happens all the time.

However, a man that carries on a relationship with someone for 2.5 years while still in a marriage has something wrong with him. Whether it is inability to act like and adult and make a decision painful as it may be... or is trying to keep all his options open so he can continue to use both of you.

I can understand his wife feeling insecure if she thinks that some other woman has her eyes on her husband. I don't think he is much of a prize, but he has shown that it is highly likely that any attention from a woman will be reciprocated by him.

Police called back and forth. Why would they stay together? It has to be a locked in cycle where they are both getting something unhealthy out of this.

If you are still seeing this man, then I would suggest that you get some counseling to find out what you stay in a now-win relationship with a man that will never be there for you. That too can be considered a "self-esteem" issue for yourself.

Please believe me... I am not trying to be hurtful and when I suggest counseling for you it isn't to be spiteful or a smart @$$.

As a person from the outside trying to piece together what is happening here I am seeing something that might help you.

Just as I would if a woman said that her husband was abusing her I would suggest that she get help and find out why she allows this behavior... this relationship with you is unhealthy.

Good luck,

Leslie (and Sarone for that matter),

There is only one person at fault here, and that is RICHARD. He is the one that decided to go off and have an affair when his marriage was on the rocks. But that is not to say that Sarone is not partly to blame (if she knew Richard was married when she started seeing him).

If their marriage was so bad, then he had two choices:

1) Try to work it out with Yvette, or

2) Get a divorce.

A friend of mine who has been married for only four months found out a few weeks ago that her new husband had been cheating on her since before the wedding. I gave her the same advice I give to all whose spouse (male or female) is cheating on them: leave!

Rebecca, I'm glad to see you are separated from your cheating husband. My piece of advice to you is to get the divorce and never go back to him.

My 2 cents.

It's high time people became aware of the reality of unhappy marriages. Marriage has nothing to do with a living arrangement or a ceremony. It's all in two spirits working together in cohesion. Just because you say "I do" means nothing if you aren't spiritually connected. It won't take long to find a person with whom you are compatible and deeply kindred in spirit.

If Yvette Johnson was taking her husband for granted and not keeping her end of the deal in her marriage... then she deserves no sympathy. Making her husband sleep in the car??? Police coming to the house??? Cheating husbands have ended up smelling like a rose because it has been proven that the wife WAS the problem. Men these days aren't lying about marrying a sorry insecure person.

Go ahead Richard and find your happiness. I applaud your efforts to keep your obligation, but sooner or later you'll find you're better off without the wife. You can do bad all by yourself.

Wives... take note.... TAKE CARE OF YOUR MAN. IF YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED, THEN ACT LIKE IT AND DO YOUR PART. RESPECT FOR MARRIAGE STARTS AT HOME WITH THE TWO PEOPLE AND IF YOU AREN'T BEHAVING RESPONSIBLY, THEN DON'T LAY BLAME AND PLAY VICTIM WHEN IT BLOWS UP IN YOUR FACE!!!!

This woman was his WIFE--and it's easy to make judgements on a marriage when you are not one of the two people involved. Where did you get your information--from the cheating husband? Not a very reliable source. Finding out about your husband's infidelity is heartbreaking--regardless of the state of the marriage.

You sound proud of your actions...really, you and Richard Johnson should be ashamed.