Complaint Review: Stuart (Stu) James Young

I started dating Stu back in 1998. At first, he was a nice guy & of course he wanted to do everything for me. But things started to go weird on me in the first week of our dating. He told me that he loved me. that should have been my first clue! How can you possible love somebody after only a week? Of course I did not reciprocate. Stu also had 'stalker' tendencies. He used to wait in the parking lot for me to get off work. Instantly when I would see his car, I was annoyed. Thinking to myself. should I really be annoyed of this person already?? I mean gees, it hasn't even been a month yet?! Well, I should have listened to my gut instinct and ran when I had the chance!! 3 years later we were still together.

He told me that I was his only 'real' girlfriend ever! Now come on, this guy is 35 years old. what is going on here? He's not ugly, just a sad, sad human being. Stu is a manipulative control freak. He tried to be in control of everything from finances to my friends. He HATED my best friend because apparently she put bad thoughts into my head. Like wanting to leave him.

Sorry Stu, I do have a mind of my own & you did that all on your own! To make a long story short I moved out & broke up with him 2 years ago. Unfortunately we are tied together finacially, only because he will not let go of our "So Over Relationship". He is refusing to take my name off a financial document, even though I have paid my portion of it. He says I need to pay for what I have done (by that he means leaving him). Stu feels that if you are in a relationship and you don't do whatever it takes for it to survive, including counseling, mind manipulation into believing you're in love with someone etc etc (I could go on forever) then you are a bad person.

Well how long do I have to keep paying for this dickhead? I DO NOT LOVE HIM ANYMORE, and I'm pretty sure I never did.

Cherilyn
Vancouver, British Columbia
Canada