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Shickshinny,#2Consumer Comment
Fri, April 12, 2002
it paints an overall ugly picture of Ex-Wives like myself, that did not always work outside the home. Did I have my nails done? Play tennis? Nooooooooooo!!!! My Ex husband had a stressful job and he worked all kinds of crazy hours. He didn't have to lift a finger around the house. Everything was done for him. I wanted to be there for him, spend time with him. Before I had our daughter-I did work. But it was 38 hours a week. Not quite full time-but certainly far from what constitutes as part time. He wanted that "second income" so I returned to a profession I did prior to our marriage and our move from our home town. I only asked one thing from him-since I was working-he was going to have to help out a little bit at home. Wash some dishes-run the vacumn cleaner once in awhile and pick up after himself. Did he do this? Hell no! I would walk in at 6:00pm to this: Dishes on the floor and in the sink, newspapers scattered about, pop cans on the floor, bowls of popcorn here and there, ashtrays overflowing, dirty clthes on the floor in the bathroom and bedroom and a nice damp towel right on the bed and him laying on the couch looking at me and saying "whats for dinner???" His days off were spent doing as he pleased. My days off were spent catching up on laundry and grocery shopping. I finally quit my job and two months later I was pregnant with our daughter. I stayed home with her too-but when he found himself a girlfriend(since having a baby and life in general was not turning out as HE had Planned and his buddies at work were telling him how he was "missing out")I returned to college to pursue and nursing degree. I could only take one or two classes at a time because he had blown our savings on his girlfriend and the bars and I was unable to get any financial aid because his income was high. I could not count on him to watch our child either-most of the time he wouldn't even feed her. So I put her in day care for two or three days a week so I could attend my classes. I was up at 5:30am and had to get my daughter up by 7:00am and be out the door by 7:30am.I had a summer course and no daycare-so I told him he had to watch her so I could take this one class. I left at 8:00am two days a week and I would have to wake him a minimum of 4 times before I left. Many times I know he returned to bed and let our 2 1/2 year old run around downstairs alone. There were many more events that took place(including the discovery of his infidelity)before I finally divorced him. I mainly want to say that the picture is not always a rosy one just because a woman is not employed outside the home.
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Fri, February 22, 2002
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