Normally, I would never care about others comments and postings about any website. However, some postings and comments about “A Foreign Affair” or www.loveme.com I find to be personally insulting. Why? Because I am a woman that met my husband through that site after he wrote to me before his tour to Cebu. My Profile was #146526. My Profile was real and I am real. My pictures, were my pictures. The letter I received and the male client information I received was the man I met six weeks later. His pictures looked like he was stern and strict, but after I met him, I realized he had a great sense of humor and was very nice. I was embarrassed for him to buy me anything. The first thing he insisted he buy me was a pair of tennis shoes. At 42 years old, they were the first pair of tennis shoes I ever owned. We had been engaged for three weeks at that time.
I have met many of the women who are on the AFA site from Cebu and they are real woman. Yes, I would guess some pictures are touched up or some women are wearing too much make-up, but all the women are trying to get a man’s attention. I do not know about virtual email but I only received letters from one man about six weeks after I joined AFA Cebu. He received my pictures and letters until I agreed to sign the IMBRA Release to give him my real email and phone numbers. We talked or emailed everyday… when we met, I felt that I already knew him.
I resent being labeled; “Gold Digger,” “Insincere,” or a “Paid Profile” I do not work for A Foreign Affair and I have not been asked to write anything about my experience. I am sorry the men who say these things may have had a bad experience. I was on SIX different websites for over Five years trying to meet a honest and sincere man, that is all I wanted, not a rich man, not a young male model, just a real man, who was a nice guy and would stick with me forever. The CHAT websites were a full of men who were scammers and perverts who only wanted to see naked pictures of a woman. Usually those that would show their body (for Money) were actually transgender men. Nevertheless, the perverts did not know that. Sadly, many were desperately lonely men who just wanted someone to talk to, someone to make them feel wanted.
I realized I would never meet anyone by Chatting. The sites that do that are not there for you to meet anyone… I could not afford the peso to go to the internet café and chat or check the sites where I was a member. Most people in the Philippines do not have W-Fi; do not own a computer, or not even a refrigerator in their kitchen. So many people in the USA, Canada, and the UK, take so very much for granted.
The $135.00 a month I made working went to food, lodging, transportation, and my daughter’s college tuition. Was I poor? Yes, like most people in the Philippines, I grew up very poor. That does NOT mean I am (or was) desperate to find a man….any man. It does not mean that I wanted out of my country either, my family, my home is in the Philippines.
Not every woman or every man is sincere or honest; many do misrepresent who they are. That is no different from anyone in any country, or city, that you might date. Do you really expect AFA to certify that all women who attend the socials or sign up at an AFA Office are all perfect women? Just as many men are as dishonest and as insincere. They only wanting sex and promise a girl everything until she gets pregnant… I know many nice, sweet Filipina’s, who were dumped when that happened and the guy just found another girl to “Romance” and take advantage of someone else.
Many of my Filipina friends on the AFA site have attended Cebu socials and their opinion of some (SOME) of the men are that they are just jerks looking to see how many women they can get into bed during the tour. However, some are really nice, sincere, and honest men, looking for what most (MOST) of the women are looking for, a real, lasting relationship.
If you are serious about finding a relationship, I can assure you many women want the same thing, but anyone a man or woman, can lie, and tell all kinds of stories in a letter, email, or a chat website