The Fraud Chick
Ethics,#2Consumer Suggestion
Sun, October 27, 2002
Mary, The majority of men and women who have to pay child support can't get past the idea that they have to hand their ex a check. They actually believe, fools that they are, that their ex will "party" on the moneyjust imagine the lifestyle you could have maintained on $40 a week, whoa baby! Why dont you set up two separate money market accounts at your bank in the names of your kids. Tell your husband that the accounts are his legacy to his children upon his death. Then create a payment book for him so he will deposit $20 a week into each account. Explain to him that this is the only way he can make it up to his kids. I have a friend who used the "money market in the kids' name" idea and it worked. The ex just liked the idea of the scratch going straight to the kids. Dont embarrass him or cut him down in front of his kids. Build him up so he will want to do it. Also, let him be the one to tell the kids hes doing this for them. Dont ruin it by saying things like, its about time. Your kids are young adults now; they know what he did and what he did wrong. But kids want very badly to believe both parents love them. If you cut your ex down they might begin to resent you. I understand how you sacrificed; you were probably broke most of the time. Im glad you had the pleasure of your childrens company. Keep up the good workits responsible people like you that set the example for the rest of us. Good Luck,