user101
USA#2General Comment
Fri, December 09, 2011
Child abuse comes in many forms and at many levels. Because this lady my not be as educated as you or I does not mean that she is mentally ill. You can use all the big words you like counselor but the fact remains that children DO get abused by all sorts of people. Rich, poor, black, white, educated, or ignorant, it doesnt matter. Just pull your head out and look into the PENN STATE debacle. Enough said!....Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth... Matthew 5:5
Armchair Doc
Menifee,#3Consumer Comment
Sun, October 30, 2011
This writer appears to be affected by Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and engaging in Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). She has written enough to reveal her shallow affect, childlike perceptions and lack of detail, egocentricity, and lack of formal education--which point to a high probability that she is low-functioning in social and interpersonal relationships, and may lead a parasitic lifestyle with self-entitlement. I believe that this mother BELIEVES the alternate reality that she has created, and she shows transference and projection that are distictive traits of BPD. BPD individuals are VERY manipulative, and the fact that she was able to initially impress doctors into believing her stories, is quite typical. BPD combines Histrionic, Narcissistic and Antisocial traits; therefore, they are experts at charm and manipulation. They are experts at playing the "victim" role, and are so often taken at face value that very few realize that these people exist behind a total smoke screen. When you question a BPD individual, they see it as "prying" or "accusing"--just like this mother did when CPS questioned her.
Feigned sexual abuse is one form of Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy; the parents who engage in this are VERY sick individuals. Any continuing, unsupervised contact that this mother has with this daughter should be considered to be harmful to the child, and should not be allowed.
I am VERY proud of Imperial County CPS for recognizing PAS in this case--and for recognizing it as a form of "child abuse"! Bravo to you! In my research and experience, California, Washington, and New Hampshire are way ahead of the rest of the country on this issue. See In the Matter of Miller & Todd, 161 N.H. 630 (N.H. 2011) for a groundbreaking decision on this issue. From Miller v. Todd (quoting DCFS): Please understand that this type of coaching [the child to feigh sexual abuse], if proven, is equally as abusive to a child as if the abuse had actually occurred. The court opined: "conduct by one parent that tends to alienate the childs affections from the other is so inimical to the childs welfare as to be grounds for a denial of custody to, or a change of custody from, the parent guilty of such conduct."
To the mother who wrote this: I would be concerned about the defamatory and libelous content that you wrote, naming people as "perpetrators (which is the correct spelling)," and naming CPS workers as "corrupt." You should get a great, pro bono attorney, STAT.
Stacey
Dallas,#4Consumer Comment
Wed, June 24, 2009
Your story does not add up - the reason being your ex now has custody Also if you want to be believed LEARN to spell
Spike
San Bernardiono,#5UPDATE EX-employee responds
Tue, June 23, 2009
Gina, I am sorry to say this, but this story is really kind of far fetched. It is really hard to beleive that the PD and CPS, yes even out in Indio, would just blow you off. IF this really did happen, something is WAYYYYYY to fishy. Sorry, I don't believe your story.
Spike
San Bernardiono,#6UPDATE EX-employee responds
Tue, June 23, 2009
Gina, I am sorry to say this, but this story is really kind of far fetched. It is really hard to beleive that the PD and CPS, yes even out in Indio, would just blow you off. IF this really did happen, something is WAYYYYYY to fishy. Sorry, I don't believe your story.
Spike
San Bernardiono,#7UPDATE EX-employee responds
Tue, June 23, 2009
Gina, I am sorry to say this, but this story is really kind of far fetched. It is really hard to beleive that the PD and CPS, yes even out in Indio, would just blow you off. IF this really did happen, something is WAYYYYYY to fishy. Sorry, I don't believe your story.