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brooklyn,#2Consumer Comment
Mon, March 11, 2013
If youre considering The Orchid and youve just read this complaint, if youre anything like I was, youve just found your reason to not go to treatment. Why would you go to somewhere like what Michelle has described in her ripoff report? It might not matter how many success stories you hear about clients who got sober there, who have stayed clean and who owe so much of their sobriety to their time at The Orchid. You might read those testimonies as the not-so-clever work of internet trolls.
I would have done that six years ago, but back then, there wasnt a bad review that popped up on a Google search. The term, troll, didnt exist. Few people believed that a black man could be elected president. Michael Jackson hadnt died of a drug overdose. The Gulf waters hadnt been poisoned by the second largest oil spill in history. The earthquake in Japan that caused a tsunami that prompted a nuclear meltdown? Hadnt happened yet. All of this is to say that a lot has happened in the past six years and the beauty of it, for me and for my family, is that I have been alive to see it. If I would have listened to one persons nay saying, if that would have prevented me from getting on an airplane headed to Florida, I would be dead right now.
Six years ago, I would have exaggerated that point, but today, I mean every word I write. I was close to death and, as far as everyone in my life was concerned, I was beyond hope. The real statistics about the percentage people who stay clean after rehab are staggeringly low. I dont know what rate The Orchid claims. The truth is, it doesnt really matter where you go to get treatment if you have the desire to get sober and youre willing to do the hard work. The statistics do say that the only thing that makes a difference is the length of your stay. The longer youre in treatment, the better your odds of staying clean.
The staff at The Orchid made me one promise- to teach me the tools to get sober and to live a clean life. They delivered on that promise.
When I sat down at the desk after being transported from a detox outside Miami, they put a piece of paper in front of me. It was made abundantly clear that if I were to leave at any point after I signed my name on the dotted line, I still owed the $17,500. For the first few days, that might have been the only thing that kept me there. Thank God for that.
The cottage houses that Orchid clients live at are beautifully furnished (or were in 2007). The beds, tables, chairs and light fixtures were from West Elm. There was benign and peaceful art on the walls. The appliances were all new. The houses were clean. The only bugs in the two houses I lived in were ones that we accidently let in by leaving our front door open.
The cottages are all surrounded by a high fence and foliage. Theres a generally uninterested cat that mills around the yard. It might not have been the best neighborhood, but other than the walk from the van to the locked, secure, alarm-rigged front door, we never set foot in the street. I didnt feel unsafe during the two months that I lived there. Plus, theres always a staff member awake and working, 24/7.
And as far as the complaints about the staff are concerned:
Every one of them is a human being and none are perfect. When I was there, I had my own issues with various therapists and employees. I worried that they would kick me out (though only one person was kicked out in my 60 days. She was my roommate and best friend there. And she was given a choice, either follow through with something or leave. She chose to leave. It might not have been a great choice, but it was a choice). I saw the character defects in them. I had beef with one of the techs that even now, I sometimes feel a tinge of anger when I think of her!
It wasnt until after I left, after I started living my own life back in Brooklyn that I realized that those feelings, those experiences had taught me a lot. Not one of us is perfect and being bossed around while vulnerable, angry and scared, I learned how to take action instead of just reacting. I make decisions in my life based on reason and emotion. I think before I speak. I am honest now. I can look people in the eye and, for the first time in my life, I believe I am worthy of respect and do not accept being treated badly.
I learned what I needed to learn while I was at The Orchid. I learned how to let go of my excuses and blame. I learned to take care of myself. I learned that holding onto painful memories and bad relationships was preventing me from being happy, from being a good sister, daughter, friend, partner and human being. My life since getting sober hasnt been easy. I have had to deal with my other diseases and that has been physically, mentally and spiritually exhausting, but I could never have done this while I was still drinking and drugging. I could only have done this sober.
Today I am happy. I have a loving, supportive partner who has, for five years, helped me through disabling disease, hospitalizations and surgeries. We have a beautiful house in the woods. We have two dogs and a cat. We eat clean, whole food. I keep trying to quit smoking that one cigarette a day I still cant quite let go of. I go to AA meetings, though not as often because Ive been so sick, but I have responsibilities at them. I have a sponsor. Today, I show up for my friends and family. Today, they trust me fully, more than they ever could before. Today, I tell the truth. Today, I love myself and that might sound contrived, but six years ago, I hated everything about who I had become. There are solutions and I learned how to find them while I was at The Orchid.
Make the decision to save your life, whether thats at The Orchid or at another treatment facility. The Orchid gave me a foundation to build a healthy life. But please dont let one persons experience at this treatment facility be the excuse youve been looking for to not go to rehab. I am proof that, if you really want it, The Orchid can teach you how to live life differently.