Complaint Review: Theresa Lama-Roberts-Loudermilk-Gallagher - Dallas Georgia

I seem to have been wrong about the housing allowance..........

Yes it is true I am married for the third time and happily expecting my second child with a truly good man that it took me a long time to find. As far as my first child goes I am very involved in his life and the sole reason he is even with his father right now is due to a very abusive situation inflicted upon me by my second husband that I didn't want my child to be a victim of and needed time to get out of, that I will go into more detail with later. I do however support my child. I provide health and dental insurance which is father was ordered to provide but never did. Any little bit of money that I have gotten from him I have far exceeded in what I do spend on him when he is with me, which I might add is during all school holidays and as many weekends as possible considering I live 3 hours away from his father's house. As for any drug use I am 7 1/2 months pregnant. The only drug I have consumed is Tylenol. I have never had a problem/addiction with crystal meth. I am not ashamed however to say that there was a time in my life a long time ago when I became physically dependant on the pain killers that my Dr. was prescribing for migraines. I am proud to say that once I realized that what I was dealing with was a problem I voluntarily sought help and came off of them cold turkey and havn't touched them since. I could have left that part out but I am a huge advocate that knowledge is power and having gone through that would like to encourage people to be aware of the danger s of prescription drugs that are so frequently prescribed these days. AS for fooling my husband, we were friends before we started dating and he is very aware of any and all mistakes that I have made in my life, however he is also just as aware of the positive changes I have made in my life and how hard I worked to achieve them. He's been there to see the good and the bad and knows exactly the person I am. He is a combat medic in the US Army and is in no way STUPID as he has been reffered to nor is any other soldier who goes out to war and fights for the freedoms of the person who posted this as well as the rest of us. This referance to his "bestfriend" Todd is an extreme fabrication. Yes they were friends as kids but lost touch about years before Logan and I met and got together due to the fact that Todd was incarcerated for some very serious drug charges including rackateering. I would like to explain the reasons I am no longer married to my previous husbands now. My first husband is a good guy. As a matter of fact we are still friends and maintain a very civil relationship. We were just 2 young kids who unexpectantly found out we were going to have a baby and married for the wrong reasons. It def wasn't for the money. We struggled financially the entire time we were together. We just wanted to give our little boy the family he deserved but later realized it takes a lot more than that to make a marriage work. When we seperated and later divirced my son stayed in my care full-time except the court ordered every other weekend visitation with his dad. As for my second husband Todd. We were friends before we got together and I have always believed that everybody needs somebody to be there for them in those dark times in their life so after a long time of not seeing him due to his first incarceration. He was however incarcerated again shortly after the first time and I decided to go visit with him seeing as how every friend he had abandoned him including his girlfiend. I figured he could use a little encouragement and it would be nice to see a fresh face. Long story short he can be very charming, I found myself falling in love with him and when he was released realized that he held the same type of affection for me so we dated and a few months later got married. Again, not for the money. He was working for a grocery store at the time with his parents paying all of his bills. I just loved him with all my heart. I never would have imagined that he would become extremely physically and verbally abusive. I was petrified to leave him after many times of trying ending up making things worse for me. After only 6 months of being home Todd went back to prison again for the third time. After About 9 months of him being gone I worked up the courage to leave while he was under the states supervision and couldn't hurt me or my son which he had threatened to do on several occassions as a way to scare me into staying with him. Again that being the reason I brought my son to his father's to begin with, not parties or drugs or "that mexican guy" as he has been reffered to that was in fact a part of my life around the time of my divorce. I ended up inviting him to live with me while he was being treated for a very serious form of cancer so that he would have a roof over his head, food to eat, the medications he needed and a way to get back and forth to his Dr. and Chemo appts. He had no family here so I couldn't just leave him to suffer and die from lack of treatment becaue of what people might think of the arrangement. I thought only good hearted people did things like that but according to whoever posted this I am a horrible human. As for cheating the military. Before you make assumptions and slander someone do your research first. Military housing allowance is given based on marrital status, not the number of dependants. You get the same amount whether you have 1 kid or 4 and that isn't given to us in money given to us. We live on base in exchange they keep that money. Last but not least if I am such a horrible mother who has abandoned her child than why Do I have full and complete sole custody of my son? Because nobody took him from me. There have never been and never will be grounds to. AS a matter of fact he will be back in my home in just a few weeks. So i hope anyone who reads this with half of a brain can see that being a poor judgement of character when it comes to picking a spouse, which I think we have all been guilty of does not make me a dead beat mom nor a woman who goes after men with "NO MONEY" and I don't use the term loosely. I am just glad I can say that my life is the best it's ever been. I have been blessed with a wonderful husband ( though anyone in the military knows we are not rolling in the dough) so there was no marrying for money with this one either. Just good old fashioned love. As for personally I have grown to become a better person by leaps and bounds and have to say that I have a whole lot to be proud of. So the next time you read one of these crazy blogs just remember people who are obcesses and jealous of others can lash out in some pretty crazy un-truthful ways so take it all with a grain of salt and just go to the source.