Birthdate: March 16, 1985
Height: 5’11”
Weight: 155
I am just disgusted with this man's behavior!! One of the dearest people I know is pregnant and carrying his child. They met on match.com. He swept her off her feet. He told her he loved and adored her. They planned to spend the rest of their lives together. She trusted him. And gave him her heart. He told her just a few weeks ago that he would love her forever. Despite problems they had in their relationship, she truly believed they would always come out the other end, because he made her believe they would. When she got pregnant, she got extremely emotional and hormonal.
Anyone who knows anything about pregnant woman knows that hey can be moody irrational, act crazy, sad, anxiety, depressed etc. you name it, they feel it. She made some rash decisions in her recent weeks. She regretted and apologized for them. It was her hormones talking. Not her. A few weeks ago, they flew to Switzerland to visit with his family. She got emotional and upset and ended up breaking up with him. She later regretted it. By that time, he had already put her on the train that took her down the mountain, at which point, she was supposed to catch another train to the airport. She did not have enough money to get home and pay for flight change. She has emailed him asking for help.
She had no phone service. 6 hours later he shows up with his mother who made her feel extremely uncomfortable. I do not want to involve his family because I'm sure they are wonderful people who only heard one side of the story. A side that mde them hate her and tell him to get rid of her. Rather than fight for the PREGNANT girlfirend that he planned on spending his life with. He left her alone. Cold, scared, with nothing to eat for days. She begged and pleaded and cried hysterically for him to forgive her. He ignored most of her pleas. Then, got on a plane back to Detroit and left her in Switzerland. She finally made it back and spent 4 nights sleeping on the streets of Detroit with no food, a high fever, most likely suffering from pneumonia.
She was too ashamed to call her friends, and didn't feel comfortable going back to the home they shared. Mind you, he didn't even bother to check to see if she was ok until one of our friends emailed him asking where she was. AND, he changed the locks to the house where she lived and where all of her stuff was. He then tried to throw her out into the streets to nowhere to go. She tried desperately to speak to him, and he even had moments of kindness. They had sex twice, which he later called her a "w***e" for doing. He told her that his family hated her so he couldn't be with her anymore. He called her a "deranged b****".
Please, again, let me remind you that she is now more than 3 months pregnant. Whatever her behavior, he should have given her the benefit of the doubt. She is now in a court battle with him and all she really wanted to do was go to family counseling to work on their problems. He has taken all the furniture out of their house, leaving her with a pillow and mattress, he had her car towed to an unknown location. She has had to walk miles to her doctor appointments. He has no interest whatsoever in their unborn child and claims he will do what he is required to do and pay child support.
There are a lot more details which I don't feel the need to get into. We all welcomed Christopher into our lives because we are her family. We have all made attempts to speak with him, without taking sides, to see if there was even a glimpse of compassion. And nothing.
So, ladies, please, for the love of respect for women, stay far away from this man. He was her prince. Then he turned into the frog. The "prince" is an act. He is a fraud. And I hope he spends the rest of his life regretting what he did. He lost the best girl I know. I'm so mad at her for still loving him. He messed with her head so bad. She will be scarred for life. You have been warned. Turn and walk....run away. Anyone else in the world, is better for you than this guy. I promise.
Peyton
Missouri,#2General Comment
Thu, January 08, 2015
If you look up James Pawlowicz on this site you will find the EXACT same posting as this guy. This is obviously a fake/scam and should be taken down by this site.
Edwin
Michigan,#3Consumer Comment
Sun, May 04, 2014
First off, let me start off by saying that I am a father of two beautiful girls, with my third on the way. My wife is 6 months along. I can attest to the fact that hormones take over a woman's life. And the first few months are the hardest because their bodies are confused. Their minds are confused. Their whole being is changing and it happens overnight with no warning. My wife cries, yells, gets outraged for no reason etc. I just keep telling her how much I love her. Because as hard as it is on me, I know that it is 100 times harder on her. This guys(James) sounds like a heartless man. I can not believe what i just read. It is truly sad. And I am very sorry that your friend is going through all of this alone. I can't even imagine. It's hard enough being pregnant, but to have to deal with the stress of court, and having an insensitive man who you planned on spending your life with do the things he is doing, is just unimaginable. This is what's wrong with the world. That poor innocent child's life will suffer from all the decisions he is making right now. He needs a good slap in the face and a wake up call. As for his family hating her. That's just bullshit. She and this baby are his family. And if he made a choice to love her, then that is his choice. I agree with the author above. Families will come along eventually..... As an adult, you make a decision who you love period. And family counseling is a great option. My wife and I went, and it was incredible for us. If he's not willing to try that now, then he doesn't care about he future of his child. He is arrogant and selfish. Wake up! This child is the rest of your life. And if your girlfriend still loves you after what you have done, then you should consider yourself very lucky, and make things right by her and you. Nothing in the world matters, no matter what has happened. She and your child should be your priority. And if you want to ignore this, and continue on your path, I can assure that it will be a very long, dark path for you. And sadly, your child as well. I am outraged!
Peter C.
Illinois,#4Consumer Comment
Sun, May 04, 2014
I have two beautiful daughters, and my wife is pregnant with our third. As a man, I can tell you that my beautiful, loving wife transforms Into someone else when she's pregnant. It is not easy. But, I just think about what she's going through. She's the one who has her hormones running her life, whose body is changing, and who is overwhelmed with things that are out of control. This guy seems like a real piece of work. I'd like to have a man to man talk with him. He needs to GROW UP. I agree with the author above. His family is his family. His pregnant girlfriend/wife is his new family, and if he loved her, then he knew her enough to know why he loved her. The family clearly did not. And really, they should step back and let him be a man no makes his own decisions. Then again, it's true. It's probably not their fault. It's his. It sounds to me, that either he never loved her, or he got pissed off about the pregnancy? OR just let her hormones get the better of him without doing his research. Either way, there is absolutely no excuse for his behavior. None. He needs to make amends or he will spend the rest of his life regretting it. Also, my wife and I have been to counseling. And it works. He should at least give it a try. If that doesn't work, then fine. But, leaving her in her condition is just weak and pathetic. Infuriating for a good man like myself.
Anon
Caldwell,#5UPDATE EX-employee responds
Sat, May 03, 2014
He changed the locks on the woman that is pregnant with his child. That is all that needs to be said about this "man". He is kinder to the poor saps that buy his used cars than he is to the mother of his child!!!
Karen
Michigan,#6UPDATE Employee
Fri, May 02, 2014
I re-read the post to get some info for my blog. Does his family really "hate her". If so, why? When families get deeply involved in relationships, problems arise. Again, depending on his age, this is all too strange. He can't possibly be a grown man. As a grown up, IF you actually love someone you can work at the relationship with the extended families. It is certainly not an excuse to leave them while they're pregnant. If you have already made the decison on your own to love someone then you love them with no question. Families come around. Sometimes takes time. My parents hated my boyfriend for two years! Now, they love him as if he were their son. This is all just too bizarre. Moon, if you're out there reading this, please get it together. It's never too late to turn things around no matter how bad they have gotten. If you ever loved this woman, really loved her, then turn it around.
I really want to know how old this guy is? If he's 18, it explains a lot, but still doesn't make it right. If he's in his 30's, then this is just unacceptable.
Miss P
Illinois,#7Consumer Comment
Fri, May 02, 2014
I am also around 3 months pregnant. I can't even imagine what your friend is going through. I am such an emotional wreck. My boyfriend has been so incredibly supportive and patient with me. I have broken up with him about 10 times in this week alone. I have said terrible things. I have thrown things at him. I have slammed doors for no good reason. It's like an alien has taken over my body. Whatever she was going through, and whatever she did, he should have just understood that it was not personal. What he is doing is just awful. Family counseling is a great option. One he should jump on for the sake of their child. If he ever really loved her, he would find a way to make it work no matter how bad things have gotten. If he can't it's probably because he never loved her. Sorry to have to say it. He also must be very young. Is he an adult or a teenager. A real man would not behave this way. I do not care what she did or said. She has the pregnant card. And he should have let her use it. Such a sad story. Thank you for posting and sharing and warning other women. I will post about him on my blog to warn my Michigan women about him.