Nela had fallen on hard times living in North Las Vegas (not from the stereotypical gambling temptation). She had been a long time friend. I had called to check on her in January when she advised she had lost everything and was moving back to California.
She has many family members in our area, and I inquired if she was moving in with her grandma, she said no and went on to talk about other family members, given me an update on each. I was horrified to find out that she weasled her way into my family's residence, playing on my soon to be ex-husband's emotions.
I have wishes that he would find a nice woman to be in his life, someone who would be caring and loving to him and be a good influence on our minor children in his presence. Unfortunately she is not that person. I have expressed my concerns with him, but we do not agree on the issue of her staying there. She will easily pretend to be an avid listener to his woes for free living conditions.
In speaking with my children, they say she has made comments on how they are to do things now that she is in the house. My parental advice to my kids was they tell Nela they follow the rules that their mother and father have put forth and if she has any suggestions that they be addressed to their parents.
I guess for the less-than-up-front-truthful Nela, it is nothing to her that she is imposing on a man who can ill afford an extra expense of a house guest at this time. She had related in previous updating telephone calls that she had gotten an STD from a boyfriend. All I can hope is that the soon to be ex recalls that bit of information and stays physically clear. May he find a better suited woman in his life and may she move on to impose on her own family members.